At the moment, I'm struggling with how many guests to invite. I would like to keep it very small, maybe 30 people. Joe, I think, wants something like 60.
I want it to be simple so that it's easier to pay for everything, and because I envision the wedding being super quiet and super simple.
I'm also worried about the politics of who to invite and who not to invite. I don't want to insult anyone, but I also want my wedding to be kind of adult and classy, as in no one under 16 or 18 or whatever. But how do I send invitations to people with "no kids" written on it? What if someone had a younger kid and an older kid? It would be weird if one sibling could go but not the other. What about friends and relatives who have kids with mental issues? Does it make me an asshole to want a very simple wedding where I don't have to worry about something like that?
There's also this issue where if I invite one cousin, or one aunt, I have to invite every single one of my aunts and uncles and all of their children, even if I never talk to them. I don't even really KNOW my dad's side of the family, but I have to invite them and pay for them to watch me get married.
I'm kind of stressing out already. The wedding is a year and a half away, which doesn't seem like a long time to me. The decisions about who to invite need to be made like NOW. We need to choose a venue because they book really fast, and each venue has a minimum and a maximum amount of guests it can hold, so numbers are essential.
I tried to talk to Joe about it tonight but he didn't really want to. In addition to that, he keeps changing his mind. First he wanted a super small wedding with no kids, now he's saying he wouldn't mind a ton of people, and that kids are ok. Gah!
Sleep. I need sleep. Yeesh.
I want it to be simple so that it's easier to pay for everything, and because I envision the wedding being super quiet and super simple.
I'm also worried about the politics of who to invite and who not to invite. I don't want to insult anyone, but I also want my wedding to be kind of adult and classy, as in no one under 16 or 18 or whatever. But how do I send invitations to people with "no kids" written on it? What if someone had a younger kid and an older kid? It would be weird if one sibling could go but not the other. What about friends and relatives who have kids with mental issues? Does it make me an asshole to want a very simple wedding where I don't have to worry about something like that?
There's also this issue where if I invite one cousin, or one aunt, I have to invite every single one of my aunts and uncles and all of their children, even if I never talk to them. I don't even really KNOW my dad's side of the family, but I have to invite them and pay for them to watch me get married.
I'm kind of stressing out already. The wedding is a year and a half away, which doesn't seem like a long time to me. The decisions about who to invite need to be made like NOW. We need to choose a venue because they book really fast, and each venue has a minimum and a maximum amount of guests it can hold, so numbers are essential.
I tried to talk to Joe about it tonight but he didn't really want to. In addition to that, he keeps changing his mind. First he wanted a super small wedding with no kids, now he's saying he wouldn't mind a ton of people, and that kids are ok. Gah!
Sleep. I need sleep. Yeesh.
4 comments:
I think you're stressing unnecessarily- a year and a half is a ton of time. One of Mike's friends planned a wedding in 4 weeks (not that I recommend that, of course, but it turned out really well)
have you made a list of, like, MOST IMPORTANT and then SECOND STRINGERS and then IF THERES SPACE and then HOP-ONs? that might help.
Yeah, I completely need to make lists before I freak out too much.
The only thing I'm really stressed about it booking a place. Good spots can book pretty far in advance. I know I can plan everything else in a year and a half, though.
This may sound mean, but stop caring about feelings.
haha.
Really though, you shouldn't base your feelings of who you want at your wedding on if someone will get mad at you or not.
I know you just want everyone to be happy, but really, this is YOUR (you and Joe) wedding, and this is the one day that is known as "YOUR" day! The one day where every single thing should be going to YOUR plan.. and thats rare. You wouldn't want YOUR perfect day being ruined because you had to deal with an intolerable aunt, or an annoying attention seeking younger cousin. So invite who you want. Don't invite those that you want to try to avoid on your wedding day.
But thats just my thoughts.
I know that you care about everyone a lot and you don't want anyones feelings hurt... but you also don't want YOUR day (the one you've been dreaming about for 23 years) to be compromised either.
(Hmmp. I kinda sound like a bitch in that.........Dont take it the wrong way!)
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